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by Muse

I know you suffered
But I don’t want you to hide
It’s cold and loveless
I won’t let you be denied

Soothe me
I’ll make you feel pure
Trust me
You can be sure

I want to reconcile the violence in your heart
I want to recognize your beauty is not just a mask
I want to exorcise the demons from your past
I want to satisfy the undisclosed desires in your heart

You trick your lovers that you’re wicked and divine
You may be a sinner
But your innocence is mine

Please me
Show me how it’s done
Tease me
You are the one

I want to reconcile the violence in your heart
I want to recognize your beauty is not just a mask
I want to exorcise the demons from your past
I want to satisfy the undisclosed desires in your heart

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1.Saran wrap kisses
2.Emerson’s sarcasm
3.Ned’s smile
4.Chuck’s dresses
5.Olive’s songs
6.Digby’s… Digby!!
7.Pies
8.Lily’s eye patches
9.The guest stars
10.Plastic hugs
11.”Oh Hell No”s
12.The Aunts
13.The beautiful colors
14.Emerson’s knitted wonders
15.Emerson’s pop-up book
16.The Darling Mermaid Darlings
17.Dancing on rooftops
18.Cup pies
19.Bees
20.Olive’s matching bedroom
21.The Pie hole
22.Coeur d’Coeurs
23.Having to google Coeur d’Coeurs every time you want to write it because you can’t spell it.
24.The strange deaths
25.The obvious subtext
26.The narrator
27.The music!!
28.The Pie Hos
29.”The facts were these”
30.The coroner
31.Flashbacks
32.Chuck busting out the languages
33.Olive’s Horse mugs
34.Itty Bitty, Dead Girl, and all of Emerson’s nicknames
35.Ned wearing his apron
36.Olive’s “ghetto speak”
37.The tie and trenchcoat. Enough said.
38.Pigby
39.The continually-used yellow brick corridor set
40.Play on word
41.Cheese talk!
42.All of Chuck’s outfits!
43.Chuck’s curly hair
44.Chuck’s straight hair
45.Ned’s nervous babble
46.Olive
47.The costumes
48.Emerson’s bitch face
49.Rhyming/alliterative names
50.The exact times/ages (six years, four months, two days, etc.)
51.The amazing cast
52.Windmills
53.Lighthouses
54.Vivian’s adorableness
55.Vivian’s singing
56.Lily’s gun
57.Chuck’s hairbows
58.Ned’s wooden arm to pet Digby
59.Itty-Bitty and Big Daddy
60.Sexy dreams
61.Dandelions
62.Mmm-hmm
63.Canine heroics
64.The most colorful little morgue in town
65.The uberbrightness and meaning of color
66.The attention to details
67.Beautiful scenery
68.Bell slippers
69.The way Ned looks at Chuck
70.Balsam’s Bittersweets Taffy and Sweets Emporium
71.By-proxy hugs
72.By-proxy high fives
73.By-proxy hand holding
74.The aunt’s mermaid tail bags
75.Lily’s snark
76.Weird clues delivered by dead people
77.Emerson’s face when he’s grossed out
78.Olive delivering pies to the aunts
79.Emerson’s mom
80.Nightly antics at the Longborough School for Boys
81.Plastic cuddling
82.The amazing writing
83.Forty five minutes of smiling and feeling warm and fuzzy
84.The romance
85.The fast talking
86.Our Lovely Ned
87.Chuck’s conversations with her aunts without them knowing
88.Daisies
89.Homeopathic pies
90.”Jiminy Krispies!”
91.Chest bumps
92.Alfredo and his homeopathic mood enhancers
93.genuine sisterhood between Olive and Chuck
94.Magic shows
95.Chuck’s love of life and adventure
96.Ned and Emerson as frenemies
98.Bizarre cases
99.Meeting amazing fun people on the internet because of the show.
100.Pushing Daisies

source: https://www.freechickenandcoke.com/archive/index.php/t-62890399.html

also:  100 laugh-out-loud moments

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I have to be honest, and it’s almost embarassing to say… I’m terrible with names and faces, and I’m not entirely sure I remember what you look like.  (Yes, you can make fun of me the next time you see me…)  And the “fobbier” they are, the harder it is for me to put names and faces (probably has something to do with the names!) — I think after 1/4 century of living, I’ve started to associate personality with names and faces.  “Peters” behave a same way, and I tie that behavior with their look, so I sort-of connect Peter with a face.  Actually, the best memory I have of you is when we were both playing setter during one game, and your team asked you if you were going to set, and you kind of shrugged and said I guess… and I told you to be confident :P so you threw your arms into the air and said “yes!”… except you did it with your back to me cuz you were facing your teammates, lol.  And then you turned around and we introduced ourselves, but gah, the neurons holding that memory didn’t sustain its electrical potential long enough to get shuttled into long-term memory.  :(

K, this might be a little sacrilegious, but this week’s How I Met Your Mother was absolutely hilarious.  They were debating the validity of the “Three Days Rule” — that you have to wait 3 days after getting a girls’ number to call her.  Too soon and you seem desperate.  Too long and you don’t seem to care.  And so one of the characters justifies the Three Day Rule by saying Jesus declared the Three Days Rule long ago, that he waited three days to resurrect.  If Jesus had waited just one day, most people might not know he had died.  They’d see him on the street and be like “Hey, Jesus, what’s up?”  “Oh, not much.  I just resurrected from the dead.”  “No you didn’t, you look just fine.  I didn’t hear of you dying.”  If he had resurrected after two days, it would have been Saturday and everyone would be too busy to notice he had come back.  But no, he waited until three days.  And it was a Sunday!  So everyone was at church, mourning the death of Jesus, and he came bursting through the doors and said “Guys, I’m back!” and everyone was happy.  So… Jesus issued the Three Days Rule.  =P

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Weeping

The Old Testament has a lot of rituals for when someone dies, for resting, for celebrating (“appoint some to sing joyful songs”).  Sometimes it’s just following the motions, but other times it helps structure personal emotions.  What a sacred moment, when the Bible said that “Abraham went to mourn for Sarah and to weep over her” (Genesis 23:2b).  “Mourning” refers to “the time of mourning” that was part of their customs, but the Bible added “weeping” as well because it was also very intimate.  Abraham suffered deep grief over the loss of his wife.

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by Joshua Radin

some are reachin’
few are there
want to reign from a hero’s chair
some are scared to fly so high
well this is how we have to try
have no envy and no fear

have no envy no fear

brother brother we all see
your hiding out so painfully
see yourself come out to play
a lover’s rain will wash away
your envy and your fear

so have no envy no fear

when your sister turns to leave
only when she’s most in need
take away the cause of pain
by showing her we’re all the same
have no envy and no fear

have no envy no fear

every day we try to find
search our hearts and our minds
the place we used to call our home
can’t be found when we’re alone
so have no envy and no fear

have no envy no fear

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I never realized it until this past week, but it seems that the most common question after announcing my obtainment of a job (besides its particulars) is whether I will be moving out soon from living with my parents.  The questions from last night reminded me of earlier in the day after the movie during lunch, when someone mentioned that she could see how the kid almost seems to have “only-child syndrome” and the parent has “only-parent syndrome.”  In other words, the child was quite spoiled and selfish (a good kid who’s unable at to see that the world has other points of views) and the parent’s authority was becoming close to authoritarian (doesn’t have another adult in the household to exchange different views about how to parent and thus stifling instead of helping the child grow).  Anyway, I know I’ve already written about this earlier (11/18), but since it’s “private” now, I will reiterate:

Usually if I just have a debate in my head, it doesn’t usually pan out unless I really talk about it with someone who can draw my thoughts and questions out or, right here in the blog, I REALLY think about it.  The debate is that I would like to move out since I feel I would be forced to grow up more versus living at home and mooching off the food and chores and all. 

However, financially it seems more reasonable since I would be saving on rent since our house is definitely able to fit the three of us.  And not only that, but it also prevents “duplicates” of internet, utilities, light bulbs, fridge….  I chose the “nursery” for a reason because it’s the smallest bedroom in the house and that would prevent me from wanting to fill up a lot of empty space that I would have and feel compelled to fill if I lived in an apartment (let alone a house).

Also, I get to see my parents, with whom like everyone else I have a love/hate relationship with that I would like to continue to improve.  And for some reason I like the symbolism of marriage where the father gives away the daughter to the husband, and it doesn’t seem as “ideal” if I’m off living on my own (though I’ve got to say living at home when I’m thirty is definitely NOT appealing).  My authority transfers from my father to my husband as my keeper and someone who will keep me accountable.

I think staying at home, at the end, is the best option.  I would like to live by myself; in El Paso I really enjoyed that, especially when my former roommate lived right below me, so we would still hang out a lot without having to share space or deal with her messes.  However, in El Paso, I did live in the dorms where staff would keep safety a priority with RAs and all, versus living in an apartment elsewhere is not as safe.  I would definitely not have my parents watching my every move, which so many times I’d like to hide from, but I have to admit that my parents bring up good points about coming home in a timely manner, among other things.  It’s such a pride fight, because I think if I were living on my own I would eventually learn to go home early anyway since I would be so tired, but because I’m frustrated with my parents (especially with my mom), I want to DIShonor them.  I know, it’s terrible.  But learning to return home early can be learned at home, if not better, just as well as if I were living on my own.  And this includes house chores such as cooking, vacuuming, laundry – things I can start taking over at home to lessen my parents loads, to serve them, and to have my heart change in the process. 

I also would like to move out because that way I can have people over (at the present moment they’d rather not have people over; they don’t even have their own adult friends over), such as cooking for them.  But I don’t even cook for them! let alone others!  If I can’t submit and serve my parents, how can I saw that I will do that for my husband?  And again, in learning how to communicate with my parents and having patience in having their minds and hearts change, it is a learning process that really carries into the future.  For example, I don’t think my parents would take it well that they gave their lives for me, to have security and not have any want and to take me away from danger, and then I would want to go into another country that literally persecutes believers (which I’m sure I’ve idealized in my head).  Yet, if they can let go about having people over, then I know that God will eventually change their hearts about letting me go as well.  Also, anyway, my heart needs to learn a lot more here at home (i.e. grow up) before I’m ever ready to go anywhere.

Living at home also forces me to let them in on my life.  I have to let them know when I’m leaving, whether I was lost, if I got to my destination safely, did I do anything suspicious, did I spend my money wisely.  I have to learn reconcilation, and I have to not make so many assumptions (“oh, they won’t let me go”).  Also, I struggle with reading the Bible and praying at home because I was never raised that way though they are devoted to God.  With the process of following God and breaking the habits I’ve formed in this environment, and learning to daily bow my heart and bend my knees under the watchful eyes of my BELIEVING parents, then God will continue to raise a courageous and uncompromising disciple in the face of real danger.  Also, when romance starts coming into my life, it would be a lot harder to compromise in intimacy, or at least at my parents’ house LOL.

The only thing I didn’t like when living by myself for a semester in El Paso was that meals would be by myself.  I would watch a lot of TV then, and I not only wasted time but consumed large amounts of nonbeneficial media.  Contrast that with eating at home with my mom and dad, in maintaining our relationship and keeping up with each other’s lives.

If I can parent half as well as my parents did for my brother and me….  I am so thankful that my parents brought me up, and within a Christian community.  I still get amazed at times at how my dad and my mom came from nonbelieving backgrounds, and God drew them to Him and together.  No one else in their families see the light yet (well, my dad’s sisters yes!).  So it’s even more amazing that God really transformed their lives to give my brother and me the blessing of growing up under His authority and in His Word.  May the spiritual legacy that He has brought into this family line continue.

So in summary:

  • Saves money
  • Limits the space I take up and thus the urge for consumerism
  • Symbolism of transferring from the authority of the father to the husband
  • Accountability
  • Safety
  • Larger learning curve for chores, financials, and other growing-up responsibilities
  • Honoring, serving, communicating, and reconciling with parents
  • Quality time with parents
  • Seeing my parents let me go on their own accord through God’s power
  • Spiritual disciplines

May your father and mother be glad; may she who gave you birth rejoice!  [Proverbs 23:25]

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I read a few “replies” online to some letters some other young people have written to a John Thomas (like Dear Abby–see below).  I’ve mentioned this before, about not really feeling bad about my whole 2006 spring fling.  People have tried to comfort me in ways I know is not fully in line with what God desires such as, oh your boyfriend might now be more open to God since you dated him or, what you did physically with him wasn’t wrong.  I keep reading 2 Corinthians 7:10 (Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death) and Psalm 51:4a (Against you [God], you only, have I sinned).  God has made my heart different in the way it feels and understands.  I used to think I had such a cold heart because other more emotional people would be bawling and I would be dry-eyed.  Also, while other girls seem to have their hearts ripped open by guys, I guess I haven’t opened my heart much to anybody (including myself and thus God) for it to be hurt terribly (story of my life: guys I like going after other girls).  Anyway, it’s very humbling to go the distance to “breaking the heart of my First Love” (Revelation 2:4)–I’m still not there yet.  Food for thought:

My girlfriend and I are both virgins, but in past relationships both of us have been physically intimate in ways which were seriously sinful. We have talked about it and have agreed to hold ourselves to a higher standard of physical purity than we had in the past. So far we have succeeded.  It would seem that things are on the right track. But, sometimes I still feel angry towards her for what she has done with other guys in the past. At the same time, I am unable to let go of the guilt of my own sins in past relationships.  I know that we have both repented and that God has forgiven us, and that we should be able to move past it, but sometimes I really feel unable to forgive her and forgive myself. I know it is wrong of me to feel that way — I should be able to take joy in God’s grace and forgiveness — but I can’t seem to help it.  Perhaps you could write an article about moving beyond sexual (or otherwise physically intimate) sins, for those of us who have repented but find it difficult to move on without thinking about the past. As Paul wrote, love “keeps no record of wrongs,” and I want very much to apply that toward my situation.

Since you say that you know that God has forgiven you both, what you’re really asking is, “When will, or how can, I emotionally feel like I’ve forgiven her and that God has forgiven me?” That’s a very honest and appropriate question about forgiveness. Let me give you a few thoughts to help you navigate these waters.

My hunch is that you’re still viewing the whole picture of your past behavior and your girlfriend’s past behavior from your side of the ledger, rather than from God’s. If I’m right, then your views of your past behavior could be better described as “sadness” or “disappointment,” but not “sinful” or “heartbreaking to God.” As a result, rather than truly repent, you’ve really just “felt bad” or “felt guilty” about it, as in, “I really wish I hadn’t done that,” rather than, “Oh, God, my choices must have broken Your heart! Please forgive me!”

Am I getting warm?

Here’s why I think you might have stopped short of true repentance. True repentance bears fruit, and looks like this: it offers nothing to God but spiritual poverty and a desperate heart desiring to change. It results in humility, gratitude, and a deep compassion for others who have or who are experiencing the same sin and blindness. Given that you conducted yourself in exactly the same way as your girlfriend did previous to meeting one another, your anger toward her isn’t anger, it’s really judgment of her, and is pride at its worst. “You, therefore, have no excuse, O man, every one of you who judges,” Paul said in Romans 2:1, “For in passing judgment on another you condemn yourself, because you, the judge, practice the very same things.”

Your anger would more appropriately be directed at Satan, who deceived both of you into believing that your behavior would have no negative repercussions. Rather than anger towards your girlfriend, your heart should be broken for her because — just like you — she was blind to the hurt she was exposing herself to. Be thankful that God has graciously opened her eyes (and yours) to the truth that you now are walking in.

Forgiveness is two things (probably more, but we’ll focus on two): It is a decision to act, and it is a miracle. It involves your will; and it asks God for a miracle in your heart. We need a miracle to be able to forgive, because we are not naturally inclined to do it. Our “flesh,” or our old nature (that which is self-led rather than Christ-led), is incapable of forgiving. To forgive requires surrendering yourself entirely to God and His economy. And since forgiveness is something God wants us to experience and walk in, we can confidently ask for His help in truly forgiving.

The prayer, “Lord, help me truly forgive X,” is the kind of prayer God longs to answer. So start praying that (or some variation). Part of His answer might be that God gives you a revelation of your own spiritual poverty, reminding you how miraculous it is that He has forgiven you, resulting in deep gratitude and humility in your heart, rather than judgment of someone else’s behavior.

I suggest you take some of these thoughts back to your prayer closet, and see what happens.

One more thing. The consequences of past sin can sometimes continue even after true repentance and forgiveness, but that doesn’t nullify the forgiveness. You can simultaneously regret your past sins, be thankful for what you learned by them, pray that the lesson would be used to make you more like Christ, and rejoice that God has forgiven you and that He works all things for good for those who love him.

I have an odd situation on my hands and would like some advice on how to proceed from here. My boyfriend and I have taken our physical relationship further than I would have preferred and not having set definite boundaries prior to our time together makes it difficult to draw the line once in the moment. We are both still virgins in a literal sense but have ventured into other areas of physical intimacy that I still believe crosses the line of what is appropriate outside of marriage.  I want to back up and create a new line now that we have gone too far but I don’t know where to start the conversation. I love this man with all of my heart and will be marrying him within the next two years but am afraid that this kind of conversation will create a chasm in our relationship that will be painful and difficult to cross. I want to do what I know will honor God but am still afraid that I will get some resistance from my boyfriend.  How do I start a conversation about limiting our physical actions together? And how do I stand firm on what I believe to be the right choices without making him feel like I am steering our relationship in a direction he might not agree with? I know that in order to make this work he has to be willing to abide by the new boundaries as well. I am just scared of what he will say and would appreciate some guidance on the best course of action from this point forward.

Thanks for writing and being so candid about your situation. Let me share a couple of thoughts that I think will help you.

First, let’s use the proper vocabulary for what’s going on. What I mean by that is, your statements like “further than I would have preferred” and “what is appropriate” soften the seriousness of your behavior. If God has convicted you about what you’re doing, then it’s much more than a personal preference or question of appropriateness. It’s sin. Call it what it is and then you’ll know better how to deal with it and move on. Preferences are merely personal choices that tend to have little moral or ethical weight to them. I prefer a cheeseburger more than I do Brussels sprouts, but I’ll live with whichever one is available when I’m hungry.

Do you see how vocabulary makes a difference? You place yourself, by your own choice, in a sexually revved-up situation, and at some point you prefer not to be there, but you’re there, so you live with it. Now, call it sin and you have a whole different paradigm to consider. If it is sin for me to eat Brussels sprouts (my wife would say I act like it is) then it’s no longer a matter of preference. The sprouts are now absolutely off limits. If someone offers me either a cheeseburger or some Brussels sprouts, the action is clear; the choice was made before the two were ever set before me. One is sin and the other is not.

So here is what I need to ask you: Is it merely your preference to change or have you been convicted by God’s Spirit, knowing that Scripture lays out clear guidelines about sexual intimacy outside marriage? Your answer to that question will make all the difference in your ability to “go back” and draw a new line of behavior. If it is merely personal preference, it will be very difficult to draw new boundaries, because they’re arbitrary. But if what you’re sensing is godly conviction, then there is hope for change, and your reaction should be repentance, not a change of preference.

So let’s call it sin. If that’s the case, then your reaction is clear cut: repentance. Repentance means confessing your sin to God, asking for and receiving His forgiveness, and, empowered by His Spirit, changing your mind and behavior to that which honors God and brings Him glory. Viewing your situation this way gives you the most hope for change that sticks. Calling it what it is also impacts how you address it with your boyfriend. He might try to talk you out of a “preference,” but if he’s a serious Christian he’ll be more likely to understand the weight of your decision if it is borne out of godly conviction.

As for how to address this with your boyfriend, you need to approach him with the same grace God approached you with it, but with a strong resolve about your conviction. More than likely, he’s had some of the same convictions, but just hasn’t acted on them. But remember, you are responsible for your sin, your actions, not his. And that’s just what you need to say — that God has convicted you about your behavior and that it has changed (not in the process of changing, but changed — that’s repentance). He needs to understand that this is not a judgment of how you feel about him, and that, in fact, the intimacy you’ve shared has been enjoyable — you’re human and God made it for enjoyment — but that you are going to wait for the biblical context — marriage.

Here’s the crucial part for you. Your concern and desire to respond to God’s heart on this issue must be your highest goal — higher than your concern about your boyfriend’s reaction and higher than your concern about the future of this relationship. If you’re waiting to see what his reaction is in order to decide whether you stick with this, you could be setting yourself up for failure. Yes, it might be painful and yes, it might be difficult, but that’s OK. It’s right, and that is what matters.

On a practical level, now that you know what your new standards are, don’t do anything that moves you in the direction of lowering those standards. If you don’t want to burn down the house, don’t build a campfire in the living room. If you don’t want to cross the line of physical intimacy, then don’t be alone with each other without any accountability from anyone. That’s just common sense. You can have a private conversation or pray together in view of others, so why do you need to be alone? You need to “go public” with your relationship, literally, so that you have accountability for your time together — no more hanging out in the shadows, OK?

No matter how your boyfriend responds, this is the best thing you can do for your relationship. If he doesn’t honor or respect your heartfelt conviction, that’s a red flag about how he would respond to you similarly in marriage. If he steps up and does the right thing, your relationship will be strengthened, you’ll love him all the more and God will get the glory.

Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual[a] act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith God has given you.  [Romans 12:1-3]

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