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Dear Abby: Now that election time is nearing, I would like to address a question that invariably comes up this time of year — that is, people asking me who I voted for. I think this is a personal subject. I am registered with a party and support it at election time. Who I vote for is my business.  My answer is, “I voted for the person I want to win.” Sometimes this is not good enough for some people, and they insist I tell who I voted for. I just repeat my answer and go on. Any advice on this?  — Registered Voter in North Carolina

Dear Registered Voter: I agree that it’s nobody’s business for whom you voted. I find it interesting that if I answer the question and my candidate isn’t the one my questioner prefers, I then hear a recitation of their candidate’s campaign slogans. You are handling the situation correctly.

Dear Abby: I am writing in regard to the letter from “Registered Voter in North Carolina” (Sept. 23). I never tell anyone whom I voted for, not even my husband (even though I usually tell him everything). It’s not that I don’t want him to know, but we respect each other’s rights to voting privacy. We have lots of discussions about the candidates and issues, and both research them together. We have similar political views, and through our discussions we pretty much “know” whom the other voted for.  I hate when people ask me whom I am voting for, and I always decline to state. My husband went to war to protect our rights — including the right to privacy — and more people should respect them. — Gloversville, N.Y., voter

Dear Voter: Thank you for writing. I was pleased to hear from a large number of readers also stressing the importance of exercising our freedom to vote. I am sure I don’t have to remind everyone how important it is to vote in the Nov. 4 national election. This is a crucial time in our nation’s history. Your vote will affect generations to come. Read on:

Dear Abby: I say you should be proud of your candidate of choice and say it! If someone refuses to say whom they voted for, to me it seems like that person is ashamed to admit he or she supported this candidate instead of that one. If someone asks me whom I voted for, I gladly let them know. — Proud Supporter in Columbus

Dear Abby: When asked, I say, “I voted for the person I want to win.” If the questioner persists, I say, “I don’t discuss politics. My doctor says my blood pressure is too high as it is.” — Middle of the Road in S.C.

Dear Abby: I tell people I voted for “the president,” because whoever wins, I will support and pray that he/she makes the best decisions for me. I believe no matter who wins we must work together to overcome the problems we face. — Jane in Jacksons Gap, Ala.

Dear Abby: The quickest way to get people to drop the subject is to reply, “Isn’t it great that we live in a country with private ballots, so we cannot be persecuted or nagged for whom we vote for?” The nosy person generally changes the subject after that. — U.S. Citizen, Oxnard, Calif.

Dear Abby: I grew up in a household in which my parents sat on opposite sides of the political fence. My mother had a very tactful way of shutting down conversations about personal politics by responding calmly, “We have a secret ballot in this country for a reason.” — Erin in Independence, Mo.

Dear Abby: I have a simple answer when pollsters or friends ask whom I voted for (or will vote for). I say: “I don’t even tell my husband that. That’s why there are curtains on the voting booth.” That usually shuts ’em up. — Anna in Alton, N.H.

Dear Abby: When I’m asked the same personal question, I lean in close and ask in a whisper, “Can you keep a secret?” Of course, they always say “yes.” Then I back away and reply, “So can I!” — Voting In Hastings, Neb.

Dear Abby: I tell people I don’t care how anyone votes, as long as EVERYONE votes. Sadly, not everyone is fortunate enough to have that privilege. — Alexxia in Frankfort, Ill.

I voted in the last election, in El Paso, and I’ve already voted for this coming election, at Lost Creek Park, but I don’t usually reveal who I voted for.  I see nothing wrong with keeping it to yourself or talking extensively about it.  But I prefer to keep it to myself.  I’m hesitant in revealing my choice because I am extremely uninformed.  I don’t even know how McCain or Obama sound like, let alone their stances politically.  And I’m beginning to realize that, even if I feel I have a lot of facts going on, I still seem to make a choice that isn’t any better than someone who makes a choice pretty quickly (this is in general, not only specifically regarding elections).  But Hannah said something on Saturday that made me ponder: “Well, as long as you voted.”  I asked her if she indeed believed that it’s better to vote uninformed than to not vote at all.  She confirmed.  I’m beginning to agree with her (well, I guess my actions would show that confirmation since I’ve voted twice already, uninformed).  As the last Dear Abby reader implied, voting at least acknowledges our appreciation for the privilege to somewhat select who we elect.  If we make a poor choice, we need to admit that at a minimum and work through the consequences humbly.  Lastly, I agree with “Jane” that we need to support whoever ends up taking office.  It is an awesome responsibility. 

Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. Consequently, he who rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves. [Romans 13:1-2; see also 1 Peter 2:13-14]

This is why I write these things when I am absent, that when I come I may not have to be harsh in my use of authority—the authority the Lord gave me for building you up, not for tearing you down.  [2 Corinthians 13:10; see also 10:8]

Obey your leaders and submit to their authority. They keep watch over you as men who must give an account. Obey them so that their work will be a joy, not a burden, for that would be of no advantage to you. [Hebrews 13:17]


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It’s been ten years since the birth of the Vagina Monologues and how they are helping end violence against women (rape, incest, female genital mutilation, battery, abuse, assault, slavery, trafficking and emotional, psychological harassment like being subjected to demeaning and domineering attitudes) across the globe.  Today and tomorrow they will be hosting their V to the Tenth anniversary events in New Orleans.


Reminds me of when I was at the University of Texas with their Take Back the Night.  I wanted to go to their Clothesline Project (also in El Paso), but somehow I never got around to it.  Also, in Skirt! magazine, Teresa Rodriguez wrote an article about the mutilation and murders of the women in Ciudad Juarez, Mexico:  http://skirt.com/node/2863.

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Considering what happened last night, I went to work on crutches wondering what the day would hold.  Would I have to be sent home?  My heart was torn to whether to want to stay or not.  On one hand that would mean I get to postpone starting since I am still apprehensive, but that would mean I would have to make it up at the end (or on a Saturday) anyway.  On the other hand, I already took the effort to get up so I might as well stay since the first week is usually orientation anyway.  My clinical instructor met me in the lobby (since they have a metal detector) and exclaimed, “What happened?”  He decided the best thing to do would be to allow me to see outpatients downstairs (since inpatients are more dangerous – they could grab my crutches and injure someone) and read the student manual during down time.  That way I could experience seeing some of the symptoms in people and I wouldn’t have to make up any days.  I was satisfied with that plan.

These were a few things I read:

  • “Persons with mild conditions may have a more dificult time adjusting because they are almost normal.  They may try to hide or deny the deficit because it is marginal.”  <–this struck a cord with me since I am diagnosed with MDD but I wasn’t pushed to take any antidepressants, which I am still wrestling with.  If I was taking medication, then I would rationalize it that it was my body chemistry’s primary fault.  Since I’m not, I’m wondering if it wasn’t really my own fault, that somehow I did this to myself amidst all the good I am surrounded with in family, friends, academics, shelter, health, spirit, the works.  I mean, people always tell others that the diagnosis doesn’t reflect on “who the person is” (e.g. if you’re manic and you strip in public).  But then again, you still have to face the consequences of your actions.  Just as if you’re diabetic by genes or diabetic by bad dietary decisions, you’re going to have to deal with the finger pricks for the rest of your life.  Might as well move on and take this opportunity to learn the better lifestyle (such as in changing the way I think), whether they contributed to my depression or not.
  • The main difference between anxiety and fear is that anxiety is a response to no specific object while fear is a response to a specific object.  For example, I have to evaluate a patient and I start getting nervous but I’m not sure what I’m anxious about.  Whereas as soon as I see an lion I’ll be scared that it would attack and thus harm me.  Interesting, eh?  I think that’s why I don’t like to watch horror movies but I can enjoy some thrillers.  Thrillers cause me anxiety but horrors cause me fear.  (There are also different levels of anxiety but I forgot them.)
  • A person falls into an impaired-role behavior occurs when an acute episode of illness turns to a chronic course, and the person has to adjust to a more permanent condition.  I think of this phase as moving from denial to acceptance.  I mean, as an assignment I had to pretend I could only use a wheelchair to get around.  My roommate said that she was impressed with my determination because I had elevated my bed (in order to put my dresser underneath for more space in my bedroom at Miner Village – the dorms in UTEP) and yet in the middle of the night she heard me us the wheelchair to get into the bathroom.  Well, I said that I just wanted to get as full an experience as possible.  Plus, I knew the next day I could walk immediately.  I can’t imagine having the realization that, gosh, you know what, maybe I won’t ever be able to use my legs after all.  *shudder*
  • When people have lifelong disabilities, especially from childhood, the family will most likely suffer some sort of chronic sorrow.  Meaning, they will not only mourn at that moment the loss of their child not having a “normal” mental ability, but also mourn the loss of hope, of their expectations, of their dreams for their child.  As each developmental milestone and “normal” accomplishment approaches and then passes, the grief is rekindled as they see that their child cannot graduate like the rest of the children, cannot marry, cannot contribute to society through a career.
  • Some tips they offered were:  “Maintain a detached perspective through which the stress could be interpreted”, don’t ignore your problems but also don’t excessively worry about them, and “Regularize the environment.  The same stressors are less harmful if they occur predictably or if the schedule can be arranged to fit in the stressful events.”  <–It lets the person know that they can still have a sense of control over the illness instead of having the illness direct their lives.
  • “Giving clients information that describes what they will see, hear, taste, smell, and experience during health care events such as ECT and cast removal reduces stress more than the traditionally prescribed procedural information that tells what is going to be done.”  <–This stuck out to me due to my future role.  I guess I can explain both.
  • “A specific phobia is excessive fear upon exposure to a specific object or situation (but not of a panic attack or being embarrassed in a social situation). When confronted by such objects or events as elevators, funerals, lightning storms, insects, or animals, phobic individuals become extremely fearful. Specific phobias may also involve fear of losing control, panicking, and fainting when confronted with feared object. Adolescents or adults recognize the fear as unreasonable, but can do little to stop it. Often the individual can lead a relatively normal life by simple avoidance, and the diagnosis not made.”  <–sounds like me!  When the psychiatrist I saw told me that I had social phobia, I was like….um…are you sure???  But thinking back, it makes sense (see items 7bcfg).  Actually, the first and last examples really reflect the sentence I italicized.  While under the table, and behind the door, I was thinking to myself, “This is absolutely ridiculous.  Not like they can’t see you from here.”  But that instance of terror sure drives into many illogical behaviors.
  • “As stress increases, ‘learned behavior’ tends to give way to the natural style, so the ISTP will behave more according to type when under greater stress, such as withdrawing from people, sorting out detailed points that could perhaps wait, and ignoring their feelings.  Under extreme stress, the ISTP’s shadow may appear, a negative form of ENFJ.  Example characteristics include displaying intense feelings towards others, insisting on things being done without any logical basis, being very sensitive to criticism, having a gloomy view of the future, and attributing unrealistic negative meaning to others’ actions or statements.” 

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